Standing together to support male victims of domestic abuse

Today, November 4, marks Supporting Male Victims of Domestic Abuse Day, an event dedicated to breaking the silence surrounding male victims of domestic abuse and highlighting the support that is available.

Domestic abuse affects people from all walks of life. It can take many forms - physical, emotional, psychological, sexual or financial - and it doesn’t discriminate by gender. While the majority of victims are women, we know that many men also experience abuse, often behind closed doors and in silence.

Far too often, men, like women, feel unable to come forward. They can fear they won’t be believed or that they’ll be judged or that there’s nowhere to turn. Some may worry that speaking out will make them appear weak or undermine their sense of identity. These are powerful barriers, which can have devastating and harmful consequences.

Here in Dorset, we are committed to ensuring that every victim of domestic abuse receives the support and respect they deserve. This includes men who may be struggling to take the first step towards getting help. In Dorset, I commission The Mankind Initiative, a charity which provides expert support to male victims. Their message, from CEO Mark Brooks, is a powerful one:

“It’s crucial that men hear about the services available to them with respect to domestic abuse. It helps them feel someone is prepared to help, encourages them to reach out and they know exactly who to speak to. Many men feel they won’t be taken seriously so knowing there is support from people who will believe them and provide help for them is integral to enabling men to take the first steps. It also helps trusted friends, family and work colleagues to encourage them to do so especially as they are often the people a man reaches out to first.”

Mark is right; awareness saves lives. When men know that services exist for them, they are more likely to seek support. When friends, family, or colleagues know how to respond, they can play a crucial role in helping someone find safety.

Dorset Police takes reports of domestic abuse seriously — no matter who the victim is – and my Office is dedicated to helping victims, investing in victim support services across the county to make sure that specialist help is available for everyone. You can read more here: Help for victims of domestic abuse. Today, I ask everyone in Dorset to take a moment to reflect, to listen, and to help spread the message that abuse is never acceptable, and help is always available. Together we can help build a community where no one suffers in silence.

David Sidwick

Dorset Police and Crime Commissioner

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